Have you ever experienced a relationship where things seem to be going well, but there's a lingering sense of disconnect or unfamiliarity?
You may feel a strong connection with someone, but there's an underlying tension that you just can't quite put your finger on.
It's possible that the Inconjunct aspect in your synastry chart could be at play.
The Inconjunct is not a minor aspect - it can have a significant impact on how two people relate to each other.
The Inconjunct, also known as Quincunx, occurs when two planets are 150 degrees apart. The planets or points are 5 signs apart, which means they are not only of a different element (Fire, Air, Water, Earth) but also of a different modality (Cardinal, Fixed, Mutable). There is no natural affinity between them.
The planets and points involved struggle to understand each other, creating a sense of unfamiliarity and discomfort in synastry. The energies of the two planets attempt to find a way to work together, as indicated by the aspect created, but often encounter difficulties. This can result in misunderstandings, miscommunications, and an overall sense of imbalance in the relationship, which may persist.
This challenge can be particularly pronounced when the inconjunct aspect involves personal planets such as the Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, or Mars.
The Inconjunct requires adjustments.
However, it can also be intriguing, presenting an opportunity for growth and transformation through conscious effort and understanding from both partners to address the underlying psychological patterns at play.
Seeking external support, such as therapy, counseling, or engaging in self-reflection, can be highly beneficial in gaining insight into the dynamics of the aspect and navigating it in a healthy and constructive manner.
Having an objective person to explain what may not be easily understood on your own can make a significant difference.
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For instance,
let's consider a couple where one person's Moon is in Aries, and the other person's Venus is in Virgo, forming a quincunx aspect. The person with the Moon in Aries may have emotional needs that are impulsive, assertive, independent, and spontaneous, while the person with Venus in Virgo may have values and a love nature that are practical, require stability, and are service-oriented, and more conservative. As a result, they may struggle to blend their emotional and value-oriented energies in a harmonious way.
In another example, in a romantic relationship, one person's Venus may be in Gemini, representing a need for variety, communication, and intellectual stimulation in love, while the other person's Mars may be in Capricorn, representing a need for structure, ambition, and practicality in actions.
The person with Venus in Gemini may feel that their need for variety and communication in intimacy is not being met by the more practical and goal-oriented approach of the person with Mars in Capricorn.
Conversely, the person with Mars in Capricorn may feel that the spontaneous and playful approach of the person with Venus in Gemini lacks structure and direction, and does not interest them at all. This can lead to potential misunderstandings and miscommunications in the realm of physical intimacy.
Indeed, the Venus-Mars inconjunct can present challenges with intimacy and passion, as their differing approaches to love and desire may not naturally align, and if there are no other harmonious supporting aspects, they may never fully meet each other.
This may mean bad sex... :-/
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With willingness and commitment from both partners, managing Inconjunct aspects can lead to a cohesive and fulfilling relationship, as it challenges the partners to understand each other's unique perspectives, which sometimes just don't match, and find creative solutions to work through the unfamiliarity.
